"I never lose"; this is powerful… and even more powerful is the meaning behind win or learn! Imagine living life knowing that you truly don’t ever lose! As I look back, having known this phrase, I surely would have done a few things differently.
What holds most people back from their next big invention, break through, writing a book, pursuing a singing career, or following their dreams is the fear of failure. What if society looked at failure differently; what if it was even praised? Some of the greatest breakthroughs of our time were perceived as failures before they were successes.
I never lose, I either win or learn.
– Nelson Mandela
This past week, we held Roma’s Annual Leadership Conference in Toronto. Our conference is inspired by our Core Value #10: Love Learning and Pursue Growth and Development. This years conference highlighted the theme of wins, misses and doing things differently. We took deep dives into our wins, but more importantly, we focused on where we missed (failed) and what we would do differently next time (learn).
Throughout our conference, we examined famous so called failures such as:
It's important to trust that no matter what happens in life, you are always winning! I know first hand that this is often sometimes easier said than done, but once you take on this thinking, you will be unstoppable! Fail fast, Fail often; you many have heard this before, and its totally right! Some of the best things that ever happened to me were my failures. I remember being ridiculed for failing a test in high school, only later to learn that I was going to have to do things differently. The next time, I was actually going to study my butt off.
In an effort to see things differently, I encourage you to watch the Steve Jobs Commencement Speech on connecting the dots.
Believing you will either win or learn takes courage, and more importantly it takes trusting yourself. Jobs eloquently states “You can’t connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road, will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well-worn path. And that will make all the difference.”
As many of you may know, I’m the eternal optimist, I love winning and I hate losing! Selecting this theme and examining it’s power has had a profound impact on our Leadership Team. The outcome from the wins/misses and do differently exercise was over the top. The teams quickly shifted their context of failure and examined ways to go back and do things differently.
Instead of focusing solely on winning, I ask that you shift your emphasis on where and why you didn’t win. Don’t dwell on it, instead take that learning, become better, and use that wisdom to create a breakthrough; be aware, the results will shock you!
Fail fast, fail often, learn from it, trust yourself, get up, try again, repeat!
I never lose – and neither do you!